Marriage is a union between two individuals who commit themselves for a socially and culturally sanctioned bond to make their physical, emotional and social needs real. This association connect both partners closely while standing by each other in times of good days and bad days.
As two individuals with different personality, different experiences, different family and social background come together, conflict becomes inevitable part of their association. What makes marital conflict vulnerable for serious consideration is when arguments and misunderstanding take the form of persistent blaming, stonewalling and showcasing aggressive behaviour. This is likely to drive loneliness, anxiety, frustration, uncontrollable verbal and physical abuses. Marital conflict can also arise due to presence of external factors like unfaithfulness, extra-marital affair, gender role attributes in financial problems and family related stresses.
Signs of Marital Conflict:
- Fighting over same things again and again.
- Having more disagreements than agreements.
- Persistent and recurring irritability with your partner.
- Do not enjoy spending time with each other.
- Partner not being the “go-to person” for any emergency or support.
- Censuring or humiliating each other.
- Isolating partner from family, friends, or any social support.
- Psychologically harm to the dependent partner.
- Physical harm or sexual assault.
- Seeking intimate bond outside marriage.
Role of Counselling & Therapy in resolving Marital Conflict
Married couple undergo lot of stress when their ability to communicate and redress specific personal issues increasingly diminishes. Most of the marital conflicts are due to cognitive and behavioural attributes including adjustment issues, role of selective attention, expectations and assumptions. The role of a mediator become effective in facilitating healthy and effective dialogues. Counselling bring couples and partners together to have open communication, rationally understand the differences and create more realistic picture to find a common ground while respecting each other’s desires and needs.
How do you know you need Counselling/Therapy?
One can find out if the need counselling or therapy by checking the following points:
- You want to bring a change, but you’re unable to do so on your own, you might want to seek counselling.
- You’re experiencing disturbances which impact your day-to-day life like work, social engagement etc.
- You’re experiencing disturbances which impact your overall wellbeing.
- You’re experiencing emotions on the extremes. For example: you’re either too happy or too angry.
- You have a difficult time in understanding your emotions or in making sense of what is going on around you.
- Feeling disconnected from yourself and your loved ones.
How does TalktoAngel can help you in resolving Marital Conflict?
TalktoAngel is an online platform that provides quality therapy and other mental health services online. We have qualified and experienced professionals working with us. Resolving marital conflict and providing an effective marriage counselling is one of our areas of expertise. We have experts and specialists who have successfully worked previously on cases of marital conflicts. Studies have proven that online mental health services are as effective as the conventional mode. Furthermore, at TalktoAngel, we put your needs first. We can help you with flexible appointments, personalized and customized intervention plans all at the tip of your fingers.
- How can I resolve Marital Conflict?
If you think marital conflict with your partner has been impacting your personal, professional and social life, it is best to contact a counsellor/therapist who specializes in marriage counselling. However, if you think it is marital discord that you can overcome on your own, you can start with observing and understanding the patterns of your and your partners’ emotions and behaviours. This should be followed with having open communication with your partner. You can also consultant marriage counsellor and therapists to resolve your marital conflict.
- Is Marital Conflict a mental illness?
Marital Conflict isn’t a mental illness. But if left unresolved it could trigger mental health problems and psychological stresses like depression, anxiety, acute stress disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and in severity it can lead to sexual dysfunction, and substance abuse.
- Why am I suffering from Marital Conflict?
There are several factors that disrupt normal functioning of married life. Personal, economic and psycho-social factors play a major role in negatively affecting the marriage. Different personality characteristics of couples can provoke disagreement over perception, behavioural and emotional responses to various situations and events disrupting normal functioning of mind. This nature of disagreements creates conflicts. When these concerns are left uncommunicated and unaddressed it causes severity in marital conflict. In few cases, sexual dysfunctions and certain personality and mood disorders can also contribute towards marital discord.
Psycho-social problems like work-related stress and anxiety, economic conditions, inter-personal relations and family conflicts can also trigger marital conflict.
- What is the best way to resolve Marital Conflict?
Resolving marital conflict is based on addressing the underlying problems that are impacting your married life. Counselling can enable the couple to start improving their communication while recognizing and resolving conflicts to solidifying their relationships. Psychological problems like adjustment issues, personality and mood disorder, interpersonal conflicts can be treated with help of counselling therapies involving cognitive behavioural modification and other techniques.